Again and again, the news of the case of violence against women that befell celebrity Lesti Kejora sliced our conscience. It is sad and concerning considering this case occurred in the domestic sphere, where women must be protected. As
a person who has felt wandering and away from family, I am indeed a
paranoiac to sensitive news like this. This is what brought me to get
acquainted with WSDK, practical martial arts for women, a few years ago.
Gender-based Violence
Violence
against women can indeed occur anywhere with the perpetrators of
violence and even in the immediate environment, namely husband,
girlfriend, friend, parent, family, or even neighbors, employer, or labor.
Although
now many victims have dared to report the case that befell him to the
authorities, cases of violence against women are like icebergs that are
not visible. Many cases do not come to the surface, or even cases that
have appeared but are not resolved. For domestic violence victims, women
often find it difficult to escape because of various factors, such as
children or financial dependence.
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| Violence against women (Source) |
Not only in the household, but also in many cases, girls are not aware of having dating violence. On the website of the Ministry of Women Empowerment and Child Protection (Kemenppapa), dating violence, or violence in courtship, is an act of violence against couples who have not been bound in marriage.
Forms of Violence Against Women
What are the forms of violence against women?
- Physical violence (hit, grossness, kicks, pushes, strangling, and other physical actions)
- Psychic/emotional (threatening, insulting, calling with a designation that is humiliating, vilifying, threatening / act of disseminating sexually charged material belonging to the couple and others)
- Economics (using couples to support the needs of life or draining the partner's property)
- Sexual (dinging, kissing, groping or coercing sexual intercourse under threat)
- Activity restrictions (too possessive, often suspicious, forbidding couples to hang out with others, regulating what the couple should do with anger and threats)
Surely Menong’s friend once thought about why the chain of violence against women is so difficult to break.
Patriarchal
culture (a social system that puts men in a higher position and is more important than women) and the belief that women are weak are the basis
for the rise of violence against women. Many women consider themselves
weak so that they are ‘tand-feeling and rinmo’ and are treated anyway by
men. Even I myself sometimes still think like this until I finally moved
to learn practical martial arts for women.
Low
levels of education provide a point of difficulty reducing violence
against women because it is closely related to the mindset of both men
and women. Although in some cases, the perpetrators and victims actually
both have a background of higher education.
Whereas
this violence against women has an impact on reduced self-confidence,
physical and mental health disorders, and the economy and, of course,
indirectly contributes negatively to the social environment widely, yes.
But there are still many people who consider this issue trivial and ignorant.
Prevention and Handling of Violence Against Women
There are many things that Menong’s friends can do to prevent violence against women.
The main step is certainly to instill religious values in each individual, family, and wider environment, such as society.
The
next step recognizes what the type and form of violence against women are. Many women do not realize that they are experiencing violence, and there is even an assumption that it is common or a form of affection and
caring for the perpetrator.
“My partner forbids me to meet my family or friends because he loves me so very much and doesn’t want to lose me.”
“My boyfriend always said I didn’t love him if I didn’t want to do his wish.”
Or normalization of violence against women:
"Tabok-tabokan, the blow in the household is natural."
"Kasian children... what do people say if you are divorced?
Even
if the violence seems as clear and real as physical violence, many
women choose to stay in a toxic relationship or marriage over their
choice or the surrounding impulses.
The next step is to deal with violence against women.
Then what can a friend of Menong do? Can violence against women happen around us?
Provide moral support and protection or legal assistance with concrete actions or “womanly supporting women” (men can also, yes!).
If
we look, especially on social media, not even women place victims
as guilty or denounce it because of a certain way of dressing or
behavior.
“Breasi, be patient. She is that, so you don’t fish. You’re the one who understands him.”
"So be a woman; don't be chat-in-wet; you have to be able to serve your husband, blah... blah."
Without
the blame, the victim already felt down. The 'weak' and 'victimous'
stigma seems to be attached. This is what makes many victims choose to
remain silent and hide, not daring to speak up loudly. And the result was violence against women like a vicious circle that never ended.
WSDK (Women Self Defense of Kopo Ryu)
Because
I often travel alone, I finally take the initiative to learn martial
arts. Thank God I was met with a practical martial arts community of
women who developed practical martial techniques so that women can
defend themselves in threatening situations.
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WSDK
(Women Self-Detration Kopo Ryu) was under the care of Sensei Eko Hendrawan,
who taught me the techniques adopted from karate and Ju-Jitsu.
Do
not imagine the movement is difficult and must be passed with blood.
WSDK teaches simple movements that women usually do, such as mirrored
movements, walking, scratching the back, and others, by using lipstick,
umbrellas, bags, pashminas, ATM cards, keys, tissues, mineral bottles, and
others.
WSDK was founded by H. Sofyan Hambally in 2006. As a newbie that has never learned martial arts before, the WSDK movement is easy
to learn. Techniques introduced include the correct pinched technique,
the technique of avoiding the appearance, attacking when grabbed, the
technique of facing pickpockets/jerks, the technique of clenching the
hand to be more powerful, and techniques to stop the act of sexual
harassment.
In
addition, participants are also taught the anatomy of the human body,
'My Body, My Weapons,' so they know which parts are strong and weak
points so that they can be used as hidden weapons.
WSDK has officially been recorded as a legal entity, and the WSDK logo is registered in IPR, the Directorate General of Intellectual Property of the Ministry of Law and
Human Rights. WSDK has also been recognized nationally and
internationally. Located in Kopo, Bandung, West Java, Menong's friends
can trace the track record of WSDK's role in print, electronics, and TV
to build commitment and concern for women.
Me and WSDK
I
knew the first WSDK in 2010 in an event titled "Warmth and Violence" in a
mall attended by a famous actress. To be honest, I’m interested in
women-related issues, and WSDK’s exposure is interesting to me.
Especially for a long time, I have wanted to learn martial arts to take
care of myself because I often travel alone.
With a close friend, I gave myself permission to enroll in a private class at WSDK.
For several weeks, we were both galvanized and learned many fun things,
accompanied by two instructors that we used to call Sensei Eko Hendrawan
and Tea Lia Nurlianty. Both are former karate athletes who have won international championships and also the daughter of the founder of WSDK.
The
atmosphere was comfortable and pleasant, away from the impression that
martial arts were creepy. Mr. Eko's family and Lia's own tea are so
warmly welcoming us.
A
lot of new knowledge that I learned, one of which we are taught body
points that are the weakness of men. Although the size of my body and
Mr. Eko is different (mental note: 12 years ago, I was still
a dozen kilograms lighter ☺), I was able to instigate or make him pioneer
in pain because of simple movements.
There
is no special equipment that we use, just wallets, bags, or even by
hand. And certainly not magic instead of magic, but a practical martial
technique for women, ala WSDK, is extraordinary.
For me personally, WSDK fosters the development of self-motivation and
confidence that women are not weak and have strength. Supplying against
crime is a very important point. During this time, women cry more and are silent when treated arbitrarily.
Even
so, studying WSDK is not automatic to make a woman a hero, just a
'jedag jedug' banting or crushing of the opponent's bones, even if their body
size is much larger.
The WSDK technique is just a tool to minimize the consequences of acts of violence and after being able to paralyze, run and seek help preferably yes!!!
As
a leading organization in the field of martial arts that is practical for
women, WSDK inculcates that no woman, for any reason, is entitled to be treated
arbitrarily by anyone.
“Sleek does not mean weak, in tenderness stored power.”
Menong
friends can join this practical martial arts program for women either
privately, take regular classes online, or practice directly together with
instructors in the dojo. In addition to Bandung, WSDK has also been
present in several cities and online. Let's go check the WSDK social media on Instagram or Facebook. Is it so exciting?
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